If you get divorced, it’s important to try to maintain a positive co-parenting relationship for the sake of your children. Both you and your ex are still going to have to work together to raise the kids, and you are likely sharing custody through a court order.
However, it can be difficult to do this because of the history that the two of you have together. This difficulty is only made more dramatic if one of you didn’t want the divorce or if it was a highly-contested divorce. But there are always ways that you can maintain this positive relationship as you move forward. Here are some tips that may help.
Consider your communication methods
One thing you need to think about is how the two of you can communicate most easily and with the least amount of conflict. Some people do this face-to-face, while others are better using the phone. There are even co-parenting apps that can make things easier and allow you to exchange information or keep track of schedules without discussing it directly. Whatever you can do to make things go smoothly will certainly help.
Put the kids first
Perhaps the best advice that you can get is simply to put your children first. If you’re thinking about getting into a disagreement with your co-parent or if it seems difficult to cooperate with them, just think about how you are doing this for the children. If both of you are actively seeking to put the kids first, things are going to go better for them and easier for you.
Always be respectful
This goes for both of you. Respect has to work both ways and you need to at least respect the other person as your fellow co-parent. No matter how your relationship feels, always remember that both of you have relationships with the children. There’s no way around this. If you are always respectful and civil, you can reduce the amount of conflict and make the co-parenting situation work much better. Don’t let emotions take control and try to put aside what happened between the two of you as a married couple.
Even with these tips, co-parenting can be difficult and there are a lot of things you need to consider. Make sure you are also aware of your parental rights and the legal options at your disposal.